How Do You Survive All Those Sleepless Nights?
Surviving all those sleepless nights that come with having a new born baby in the house:
So here I am once again in my local watering hole having a quick beer on my way home. You see I have to pass this bar "La Peña de Taurina" (A Spanish version of your local labour club) to get to my house because it's at the end of my lane and that's the problem, I don't pass it. I stop and go in. Anyway here I am minding my own business and listening once again to how lucky I am having twins...
"It's so much easier having two children at the same time because you get through all the stages once, you don't have to start all over again when the second child comes along. We'd just got Jenny out of nappies when Peter arrived and we had to start all over again!"
Now these types of loose statements always seem to ooze from the mouths of people who don't have twins and have little or no experience in bringing up twins.
So what's it really like having twins?
Firstly let me state that I think all babies under 6 months old are just two legged waste producing machines anyway. Let's face it all they do is eat, sleep and produce organic waste. I don't know of any other man made invention on this planet so efficient in turning white liquid called milk, into a luminous green/yellow nuclear substance that you can smell from as far away as the next village!
Anyway lets look at some subtle differences in having one baby at a time or having twins. Firstly taking a normal new born baby's sleep pattern of around three hours, if we get little Jenny to sleep at say 9pm, we can get to sleep ourselves around 10pm or 11pm at the latest. A quick hours nap and we're up around twelve midnight for the first feed, we get back to bed around 1am giving us till 4am to sleep before the next feed. If both parents share the responsibility, take turns and each get up once you can squeeze almost six hours sleep in a night. Not bad at all.
Now lets take the same night but with twins. A friend at work had Identical twin boys who were completely in sinc with each other. They woke at the same time and went back to sleep at the same time so in that case it would be very similar to the example above, but our girls are Fraternal twins and are completely out of sinc with each other so our normal night would go something like...
Rebeca sleeps at 9pm, Laura sleeps at 10pm, we sleep at 11pm, Rebeca wakes at midnight and goes back to sleep at 1am just in time for Laura to wake up again at 2pm. We get back to sleep at 3am and Rebeca wakes up again at 4am, we get back to sleep for 5am and Laura wakes up at 6am... Now tell me its easier having twins. The only solution we came up with was that between 10pm and 8am each parent one would take sole responsibility for one child. I look after Rebeca through the nights and Marie looks after Laura.
This has worked for us although I can't remember whats its like to share the bed with my wife anymore as I'm normally getting out when she's getting in, but some 16 months on, we normally only get up once and Laura quite often sleeps right through. What keeps you sane is the knowledge that it does get better but I can't help wondering, when I finally get my first full nights sleep again, am I going to miss those special moments at three O'clock in the morning and the closeness that comes with rocking a baby back to sleep?
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